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Hmm, basically that- my experiences as CD online and offline. Why hidden? Well, just one fo those things I don't tell everyone about
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Buying clothes...
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Posted:Feb 16, 2011 1:37 am
Last Updated:Feb 26, 2011 9:57 pm
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Now, here we have something that guys hate, and gals love! (Now hows that for a generalisation! LO Still, it is probably true to some extent- particularly when it comes to shoe shopping. I have to admit- I love shopping for clothes- and I jst love tryign on heels and boots (what I can afford is a different question altogether!)
The problem is, that most mainstream shops (at leats here in SA) aren't particularly friendly towards crossdressers. Hey, if you're looking on shelves, checking sizes etc, people will help you (though some of the other customers are likely to give you looks- especially in the lingerie department...). Using the change rooms to try things on is a different matter! Occasionally you find a sympathetic shop assistant, but thats rare- most of the time you just chicken out and try it on at home, going back if it doesn't fit.
Even worse are some of the boutique shops where some fo the trendier stiff is available. Maybe its me- but I often feel too intimidated to go in! Heh, I don't know, maybe its just imaginary and I am just self conscious, but South African society tends to be very conservative! Probably the most comfortable shops to shop at are the ones servicing the "alternative" community. There guys dressing up (or being dressed up) is just part of the scenery. Far more understanding and people knwoledgeable of how to apply women's sizes to men (hint guys- women's shoes should be two sizes larger than your male foot size for comfort). Normal sex shops can also be good- and have some fo the nicer lingerie in them!
Online shopping- a possibility, but as always the import costs become exhorbitant because of the cargo costs on individual items. hmm, but then mayber I am guilty of not usinf the local online shops enough- anyone know any good ones?
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Peoples views of Cross Dressers
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Posted:Jan 20, 2011 7:18 am
Last Updated:Jan 29, 2011 3:15 pm
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Maybe I'm just seeing the worst fo it here and on other sites but the following strikes me as being indicative of some people's conception of cross dressers:
* weird
* bizarre
* sick
* desperate
Now weird and bizarre are just fine- I really have no need to be seen as fitting in with the rest of the herd. Let people see me as something different and out of the ordinary- I see that as positive despite the tone of those who think that they have to let me know about how terrible I am in emails.
Sick (or as one rather inane and moronic put in an email "sicko") is rather funny. Evidently they feel threatened by me for some bizarre reason- maybe jealousy that I garner more attention than them! Still, easily written off as meaningless.
Its those that seem to think that merely because I wear panites and a skirt (not to mention the rest LOL ) I must be desperate! This is the crowd that seem to think I will be willing to drop everything, leave work and meet them in a parking lot to give them a quick blowjob. Or the variation- to meet them at a shopping centre so that I can give them a blowjob in a changing room.
So, if you're one of those, don' bother contacting me- I am not going to blow you in a parking lot or in a booth at Adult World or elsewhere. You want to get into my skirt, you're actually going to have to realise that I am NOT desperate, that I DON'T have to meet you and that being here does not obligate me to meet you at anytime. So the person earlier who got pissed off at me for daring to saying no to meeting you tonight because I have prior arrangements- don't bother trying again!
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Prejudice and the TS/TG/CD community
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Posted:Jan 14, 2011 12:05 am
Last Updated:Jan 20, 2011 7:23 am
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For many years it was ok to discriminate against the gay community. Slowly attitudes changed and though the prejudice remains in some places, by and large such prejudice is deemed unacceptable and the realm of the religious fanatics and homophobic. Sadly, it seems that prejudice against those like myself, who enjoy being something else for a while (or forever for those that go the surgery route), is alive and well.
And it doesn't just come from the straight community. I was going to go to a club for the Homosexual community and decided to fire off a query to them beforehand about crossdressing at the club. Dunno why, just had a feeling that I better check. The reply- "Sure you can come, but you'll have to prove you are a man if we can't tell" I didn't bother going there, and I would steer others away. What, are they worried that hordes of women are going to infiltrate them to ogle all the gays and turn them straight?
Nor is this restricted to offline. I have a profile on another site. Suddenly I get a message that the moderators have deemed my profile pic in violation of the guidelines and I have been removed from the search results. Hmm- so you check the guidelines: Is it porn? Nope- I'm fully clothed. Is it of another person? Nope- its me. Is it acceptable quality? Yep- maybe not perfect but not terrible either. This leaves only one reason to have my picture banned- the fact that people object to guys dressed as gals.
Sadly- it is nto just there, but right here as well that this prejudice rears it head. The South African discussion groups aren't all that active- with the mosta ctive of them being "South Afriucan Sex Lovers". Unfortunately it appears that in South Africa you can only be a sex lover if you are not a TS/TG/CD. yep everyone can join the group- everyone but us! Why not? who knows- maybe if a guy is wearing a skirt he is not allowed to love sex!
Can we hope for this discrimnation to stop? Probably, though who knows how long it will take- it took decades for the gay community to gain their current level of acceptance; maybe it will take longer for us.
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