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On today's episode of 'Ask Secret_lade'....  

secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/11/2022 3:56 pm

    Quoting staci_19702:
    Oh hell. I’m sorry, but that’s funny.
    Ah, the horny, messaging drunks that stay up way to late and could’ve used that time to just shut up, masturbate and go to bed. I miss those. 🤣🤣
Maybe if they masturbated before they messaged, the messages would be a bit less desperate and hostile! LOL


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/11/2022 3:51 pm

    Quoting G000dbuddy:
    use the info for good and not evil.. sometimes evil takes over
Unfortunately, yes it does.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/11/2022 3:50 pm

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    I don't respond to messages unless I have time to spare toying with a foreign
    scammer.
I knew you guys got those types of messages from time to time, I didn't realize just how often though. You would think there would be a way to weed that shit out.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/11/2022 3:48 pm

    Quoting  :

So far, I haven't had any experiences like that. It could just be that there are far fewer women on here than men.... Or that the men tend to be a little more apt to reach out and start a conversation than a woman. It's too bad people there are people out there that do this stuff, it ruins it for everyone.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/11/2022 3:43 pm

    Quoting spunkycumfun:
    Sometimes I'm pleased I don't get much mail!
It'll come to me in spurts. I don't often respond back to my messages anymore.... Most of them are not worthy of a response. Messages I get from blog readers I always respond to, a few of my readers prefer to respond there and I'm ok with that, it gives me a little more freedom to share some things I wouldn't normally share in a blog comment.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/11/2022 3:40 pm

I know!! I was trying to be nice and just tell him the issues that some of the women face so he could have some insight on what to say to actually get the right attention. The next thing I know, he's revealing how his life has gone to shit but 'didn't want to share the details.' uh... huh...


pagancountrygirl 66F
6466 posts
1/11/2022 3:20 pm

That's why I love...and use the hell out of....the BLOCK feature! Not only do I click block when on the message section but I go into my blocked list and make sure all the boxes are checked and saved so I don't hear from that person again.

Pagan
Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!


MrRareity 64M  
4589 posts
1/11/2022 1:16 pm

I have 8" for ya if you can handle it...lol. I would never think in a million years to say that to someone I was trying to impress. But it doesn't surprise me that others do. I must admit that once again I was kind of laughing when I read this, I think I know you well enough that you weren't joking around. Here's an idea don't write back to him again instead write to me.

We have two lives, and the second begins when we realise we have only one - Confucious


citizen4722 66M  
74582 posts
1/11/2022 12:32 pm

Those openers are closures for sure


New2Midlo 54M
1075 posts
1/11/2022 10:30 am

And this is why we don't respond to those who we aren't interested in, class.


jolielaide 52F  
1754 posts
1/11/2022 9:57 am

he asked for help and you did, you gave him some. my guess is that it wasn't the type of 'help' he was looking for. but y'know, even when you give a simple no, thanks reply that can also backfire as well. it can be hit or miss depending on whether or not you're dealing with a person that has a full basket or not. you got a basket case on your hands, secret

good luck with that.


boobwhisperer69 61M  
8322 posts
1/11/2022 9:43 am

Dumpster FIRE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


hogknot 57M
1059 posts
1/11/2022 8:21 am

So "let's fuck" is not a good opening line? LOL Having been to a few dumpster fires, both literally and figuratively, I can say they are nothing but a pain in the ass.


patchdriver 68M/68F  
156 posts
1/11/2022 8:19 am

I had a handsome friend many years ago who told me he used a straight forward, blunt approach to pick up women. He insisted such an approach doesn't waste time and he knows exactly where he stands with her. I couldn't believe he used such a blatant approach until one time in a bar in Prince Albert. We were seated with three flight attendants we recognized from a regional airline, and out of the blue, he looked at one and said, "do you want to fuck?" She looked shocked but smiled and said, "yes". Off they went!


positively4you 74F  
4605 posts
1/11/2022 6:24 am

Those types just need to call a hooker. But, I guess too poor or too cheap for it.


lok4fun500 M
51906 posts
1/11/2022 5:57 am

I don't use open liners because I'm only here to meet friends...NOT to hook up!


HughJardon62 62M

1/11/2022 5:45 am

Makes me think of an old country song:
"The Fireman" by George Strait.

Happy Tuesday to you too!

I'm a standard member, so normal messaging doesn't work.
But we can chat on my blog, "We Can Talk Here"


staci_19702 53T
3767 posts
1/11/2022 5:02 am

Oh hell. I’m sorry, but that’s funny.
Ah, the horny, messaging drunks that stay up way to late and could’ve used that time to just shut up, masturbate and go to bed. I miss those. 🤣🤣

Have a great day! 💋
Staci


G000dbuddy 36M
1676 posts
1/11/2022 4:47 am

use the info for good and not evil.. sometimes evil takes over

goodbuddy781


mc_justmc 63M

1/11/2022 4:20 am

I don't respond to messages unless I have time to spare toying with a foreign
scammer.


spunkycumfun 63M/69F
41171 posts
1/11/2022 2:30 am

Sometimes I'm pleased I don't get much mail!


MrWrong4RghtNow 57M
2439 posts
1/11/2022 2:12 am

No good deed goes unpunished....hoo boy.

My name is MrWrong and I approved this comment


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/11/2022 12:48 am

We'll talk about what NOT to say when trying to meet members of the opposite sex.

As you all know, it's the opening line that get's the attention.

Funny, intelligent, artfully crafted openers will draw me in every time... Long enough to catch my attention but not so long I'm reading about the best friend in kindergarten who grew up to be an eye doctor.

As a wearer of eye glasses.... I think I might actually like to meet that kindergarten best friend. I feel we may have something in common!

But, I digress...

Just keep it simple!

And, for God's sake, avoid these openers altogether!

-Are you real?
-im in town for the weekend wanna hookup
-i have 8 inces to feed ya
-I'm going through some shit, I'd like to just fuck for a while to get my mind off it.

I'm here to say, those openers?? Those openers are just a disaster waiting to happen. Nothing good can come of saying those words to ANYONE.

Especially me.

I see openers like this and and I see a smoldering dumpster fire just waiting to rage out of control. Exchange a message or two and you've got a blazing inferno of failed marriages and anger issues, topped off with a restraining order on top!

Yah..... No.

I had received one of those messages last weekend and did not respond. I was tempted to say, no I'm not real, but I didn't. I just left it unanswered and chose to move on.

But, when the sender messaged me again with a semi-heartfelt message stating he was new to the online dating scene and he needed some help, I felt bad for him.

And messaged him back.

I explained a few of the frustrations that I experience on the site in hopes that he could use it to better his approach, possibly help him out a little on his quest, and hoped he'd be able to use the info for good and not evil.

That backfired in my face, this dumpster fire is burning out of control now. Wish me luck folks, I'm going to need a pretty big fire extinguisher for this one!

Happy Tuesday!


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