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Blogs > secret_lade > Ramblings of the depraved.....

Just leaving a comment to get points.....
 

redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
1/19/2020 7:56 am

 If a person's comments are not on point I just delete them.
When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


jolielaide 52F  
1754 posts
1/19/2020 6:58 am

 desperate people do desperate things at the expense of others. however, there are ways to keep it classy; a little thoughtful. unfortunately, this site doesn't necessarily cater to classy.


IVFalternative 53M
Ask me for a photo
630 posts
1/19/2020 6:35 am
    Quoting Blee761:
    I admit, I am a paying customer, thus I could care less about points (even though they can come in handy on occasion).

    As far as members making posts just to get points? Well, those are pretty obvious. I tend to avoid them and seek out the heart-felt blogs.
She is talking about people who leave comments, not people posting their own blogs. It's right in the title dude.

Also there's no reason to quote the whole blog.. imagine what this would look like if every commenter quoted the whole thing like you have. Use some sense. At least the points bloggers know they aren't contributing anything worthwhile.
Following my advice may cause injury, insanity, financial loss, hemorrhoids, death and superpowers


jeepsR4fun 57M
106 posts
1/19/2020 6:32 am

 Points stay for those chessy comments and, CityHookups.com is in lets get what we can get mode, Yet We are still here. lol Just being a little nostalgic, Remember when we could talk and post freely???


benard69 66M/66F  

1/19/2020 6:30 am

 Never realized you got points for commenting...And then again WHY???


jemrdy 59M
112 posts
1/19/2020 6:23 am

 Like the post and the information. I personally have found some blogs that I like to follow for the content not just to get points. Some have some great information and it would be enjoyable to strike up conversation but of course those are the ones that are most followed so their time is limited


sgd11334488 60M
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1/19/2020 5:52 am

 oh boy is this what this site has been reduced too


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/19/2020 5:49 am
    Quoting seems6666:
    Yes, it is getting tiresome, I delete them, I don't suppose it takes their points away though
That would be fantastic if you could revoke the points to comments that get removed..... To bad there isn't a suggestion box on here.


seems6666 53F  
4838 posts
1/19/2020 5:47 am

 Yes, it is getting tiresome, I delete them, I don't suppose it takes their points away though


Blee761 62M  
519 posts
1/19/2020 5:44 am
    Quoting secret_lade:
    Just leaving a comment to get points.....

    Look, I get it.

    You're pissed off! Everything on here is changing and you don't want to have to pay money for what you think will be an effortless hookup.

    But, here's the thing....

    A lot of people on here use their blog as a social outlet, a way to meet new friends, and in a lot of cases, as an emotional outlet to express the secrets they can't reveal in 'real life'.

    While I know that we are all guaranteed the right to freedom of speech, how about we not flash that "I'm an uncaring Douche Bag" badge by stating 'I'm only here to get points' and maybe, just maybe, actually read a little of the post and state something worthwhile.

    Death in the family? I'd much prefer 'wow, that sucks' to a 3 sentence diatribe on why CityHookups.com is fucked and the points system blows. Whatever point you are trying to make is lost by doing this. You are not bitching to the right people.

    One last thing for all you points earners out there.... There is a limit to how many points you can earn. What will be your back up plan when you have met that limit?
I admit, I am a paying customer, thus I could care less about points (even though they can come in handy on occasion).

As far as members making posts just to get points? Well, those are pretty obvious. I tend to avoid them and seek out the heart-felt blogs.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/19/2020 5:37 am
    Quoting 62wildwardy:
    yes I agree site was good years ago fakes and scams have taken over and seems they don't address the problem just charge all so less work o there end and hurts those here for real and pleasurable hope dreams and reality that there is good out there
You are right, it was a much better site years ago... But it is what it is now. There are still good, decent people on here, you just have to be patient and allow yourself time to find them.


62wildwardy 61M
76 posts
1/19/2020 5:30 am

 yes I agree site was good years ago fakes and scams have taken over and seems they don't address the problem just charge all so less work o there end and hurts those here for real and pleasurable hope dreams and reality that there is good out there


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/19/2020 5:29 am
    Quoting  :
It's good to know I'm not the only one who feels this way.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/19/2020 5:28 am
    Quoting RavenGB:
    Quite.
    The only things on this site worth a candle are (some of) the blogs and some folk in chat. IM never seems to work and there are no peolple close to me here or back at home to make a meet possible.
    The site does provide some interesting stuff for the amateur psychologist though!
I have always been drawn to the blogs.... I've made a few online friends that I communicate with regularly as a result of reading their blog, or them reading mine.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/19/2020 5:25 am
    Quoting OurSecret119:
    Great post, and you're right... there does seem to be a lot of "Douche-bagery" going on. I guess we just have to have to take it with a grain of salt.
    ~"The Dude Abides"
Most of the time, I do take it with a grain of salt. There will always be that one person....


OurSecret119 52M
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1/19/2020 5:19 am

 Great post, and you're right... there does seem to be a lot of "Douche-bagery" going on. I guess we just have to have to take it with a grain of salt.
~"The Dude Abides"


RavenGB 63M
1430 posts
1/19/2020 5:17 am

 Quite.
The only things on this site worth a candle are (some of) the blogs and some folk in chat. IM never seems to work and there are no peolple close to me here or back at home to make a meet possible.
The site does provide some interesting stuff for the amateur psychologist though!


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/19/2020 5:11 am

 Just leaving a comment to get points.....

Look, I get it.

You're pissed off! Everything on here is changing and you don't want to have to pay money for what you think will be an effortless hookup.

But, here's the thing....

A lot of people on here use their blog as a social outlet, a way to meet new friends, and in a lot of cases, as an emotional outlet to express the secrets they can't reveal in 'real life'.

While I know that we are all guaranteed the right to freedom of speech, how about we not flash that "I'm an uncaring Douche Bag" badge by stating 'I'm only here to get points' and maybe, just maybe, actually read a little of the post and state something worthwhile.

Death in the family? I'd much prefer 'wow, that sucks' to a 3 sentence diatribe on why CityHookups.com is fucked and the points system blows. Whatever point you are trying to make is lost by doing this. You are not bitching to the right people.

One last thing for all you points earners out there.... There is a limit to how many points you can earn. What will be your back up plan when you have met that limit?


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