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I'm Getting Real Tired  

GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1809 posts
12/19/2017 6:57 am
I'm Getting Real Tired


Of this new IM "feature"......

The freaking thing signs me on automatically every time I sign in, and apparently sometimes when I click on my email, or other odd times it does it as well. It use to just do that if I logged in on my cell phone, now it does it if I'm on my laptop!

Is this supposed to be a good thing? Cause I think it sucks!!

IF I wanted to go on the IM I can damn well do it when I feel like doing it, not when A*F*F feels like doing it for me!!!

Is this annoying anyone else or is it just me?.........lol


WTF.........

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
12/19/2017 6:59 am

I KNOW how IM works.....soooooooooooo let me do it IF I want!!

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


NovemberRain2702 32M
4 posts
12/19/2017 7:01 am

quero ser bem real para você amor


NovemberRain2702 32M
4 posts
12/19/2017 7:02 am

bem gostosa você


Owatalife 67M
1711 posts
12/19/2017 7:18 am

They should teach a course here on how to utterly & completely
piss people off!


STampa1971 53M
45 posts
12/19/2017 7:20 am

It can be really annoying


Story435 76M
3791 posts
12/19/2017 7:26 am

I have never seen this before but I can say I'm dose not work very good at times that's for sure.
Butch


TB5758 65M/67F
577 posts
12/19/2017 7:33 am

I just hate that when I am not really on some may consider it rude of me not to respond. I try to tell them I am not on 24/7 even if it appears that way.


OldrHarleyGuy 72M

12/19/2017 7:41 am

Find that it happens all the time here. I just found that if I leave the computer on at all after I log off the site, it will keep me logged in as being on, so have to shut the computer off whenever i'm leaving it for awhile. Only stumbled on to this a little while back when was on another computer that was logged in on a friends account and it still showed me as being online.
Anyway, is just another one of the tricks in the bag of many that these sites have adopted to keep it looking like there are more users online than really are and same with the IM, makes it look as though there are more there and open for chat than there really is, etc............


HarddinHou 34M
17 posts
12/19/2017 8:08 am

ya the messenger is no good..... to top it all they just jacked up the cost/point system for non gold members. either trying really hard to get people to purchase gold, or to push people away; not sure which


GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
12/19/2017 8:11 am

    Quoting  :

I suppose you are probably right.

I have now added sliding the button to busy as well to my list of things to do. The list grows.....lol

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GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
12/19/2017 8:15 am

    Quoting  :

That's what aggravates me, I'll be reading an email or a blog and lo and behold I'll see my IM button magically slid over and I am now on the IM.

So I slide it back over to busy. Ugh....the "improvements" on this site are not always so welcome.

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
12/19/2017 8:18 am

    Quoting Owatalife:
    They should teach a course here on how to utterly & completely
    piss people off!
Yes...with all the glitches on here it's no wonder people get pissed off. This new feature was not an improvement in my opinion....

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GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
12/19/2017 8:19 am

It absolutely can be...and there is enough annoying glitches here.....lol

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GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
12/19/2017 8:21 am

    Quoting Story435:
    I have never seen this before but I can say I'm dose not work very good at times that's for sure.
    Butch
It just started for me a day or two ago. I don't really go on The IM that often, but I want it to be my choice to do it!

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GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
12/19/2017 8:24 am

    Quoting  :

Pretty much any woman on this site is popular.....lol

The minute you log in on IM there are usually at least a few men wanting to chat........lol

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GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
12/19/2017 8:27 am

    Quoting TB5758:
    I just hate that when I am not really on some may consider it rude of me not to respond. I try to tell them I am not on 24/7 even if it appears that way.
I agree and that's another reason I don't like it. When I would sign in on my cell I really didn't see that I had IM's. This new feature, I can see that I have them, but I may not feel like chatting at the moment and then slide it to busy and feel a tad bad.

Maybe A*F*F is trying to guilt us into chatting......lol

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
12/19/2017 8:31 am

    Quoting OldrHarleyGuy:
    Find that it happens all the time here. I just found that if I leave the computer on at all after I log off the site, it will keep me logged in as being on, so have to shut the computer off whenever i'm leaving it for awhile. Only stumbled on to this a little while back when was on another computer that was logged in on a friends account and it still showed me as being online.
    Anyway, is just another one of the tricks in the bag of many that these sites have adopted to keep it looking like there are more users online than really are and same with the IM, makes it look as though there are more there and open for chat than there really is, etc............
Yes..this site has all kinds of glitches going on. I have heard of the one you mention as well. I once had someone text me and ask if I was on and I wasn't, but they told me that my profile still said I was.

I agree it is all their marketing ploys to make the site look better....but it seems like we're all on to them.....lol

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
12/19/2017 8:33 am

    Quoting  :

I hear ya...some people can get a bit testy if they think you are ignoring them, when you don't even know that they are there..

Soooooooooo pain in the ass it is!!!

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
12/19/2017 8:35 am

Yup....so says just about everyone!! You'd think they'd fix the things that don't work, instead of trying new things that won't work either.

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GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
12/19/2017 8:38 am

    Quoting HarddinHou:
    ya the messenger is no good..... to top it all they just jacked up the cost/point system for non gold members. either trying really hard to get people to purchase gold, or to push people away; not sure which
So I hear, I am a gold member...but don't really go on the IM. I do hear all the complaints though about the problems.

I think they most likely want more members to go gold, or to buy points to do the "activities". Either way they are lining their pockets with $$.

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GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
12/19/2017 8:41 am

    Quoting  :

Ahhhhhh so I'm not the only one.....lol

I bet site support wasn't real helpful with it, they most likely say they are working on it and then nothing happens.

I hate to complain about the site all the time, but they make it real easy!

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s2ndegree 65M
9800 posts
12/19/2017 11:25 am

I guess I'm lucky I live where I live.
The highly measured personalities
that generally pervade the site locally
makes this a no issue issue.
And here I always thought popularity
was a good thing.
Sorry for your grief.

Using more than all the road!


peterlikesplay2 67M
461 posts
12/19/2017 11:54 am

well it has an off switch...which i use all the time..otherwise it can be annoying..when i don't want to use it


Tmptrzz 61F  
107039 posts
12/19/2017 12:02 pm

From what your describing hun it sounds like maybe it's just on the cell phones as when I'm on my computer I don't see anything like that. Being on phone on the site sucks big time.. I hope you figure it out soon..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


notsure1949 75M
10657 posts
12/19/2017 2:47 pm

this has happened to others, says they are logged on IM when the are not


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