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Am I Supposed To Be Flattered?  

GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
12/13/2017 3:13 pm

    Quoting pocogato12:
    This is SOOOO FAR out of line- block him, report him an send a copy of the vulgarity in the post he sent you. There seems to be an unusual quantity of this type going around in the past three weeks. I have now reported three
    profiles, warts and all including their many profiles names, asking that their ISPs be banned. Too damn cold out to play these kind of rude games
It does make me shake my head and think what these kind of men really think when they send out emails like this one. I was doing pretty good and not getting any over the top ones lately, but have seen some related in the blogs.

He is blocked, but I haven't reported yet....

It sure is cold here in Philly......brrrrrrrrrrrr....lol

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notsure1949 75M
10657 posts
12/13/2017 3:42 pm

can you handle meeting someone first, and then get to know them, some comment on the site are rude and crude, manners do seem to be lacking, but should always treat others as you want to be treated, and show some respect


GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
12/13/2017 4:46 pm

    Quoting notsure1949:
    can you handle meeting someone first, and then get to know them, some comment on the site are rude and crude, manners do seem to be lacking, but should always treat others as you want to be treated, and show some respect
Apparently this guy thinks women just jump at the chance when offered all that he was offering.

It is true some can be rude and crude, those are the ones I have no time for and won't usually bother responding to. I agree that we should treat others the way we want to be treated. It is something that I try to do always.

Just because it's a site for sex and hookups doesn't mean we all can't behave like decent adults.

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gvillegrl 47F  
1 post
12/13/2017 5:13 pm

    Quoting GreenEyedLady_60:
    I absolutely agree that not all men are like that, I know this for a fact because I have been contacted by nice, educated, well mannered men.

    I realize not all people can read my profile because they are not gold, but honestly...not sending a women (who you've never communicated with before) an email like that should just be common sense.

    It's a sex site sure, but decent manners should still exist among adults....
Let me preface this by saying I'm not condoning the email you received, or criticizing you. I just think you might be better off looking at this in a different way. You have to look at the larger context of this. The internet is the Wild West. You have millions/billions of different people with completely different ideas and personalities. You put all these different people together interacting (particularly in an anonymous environment), and you're pretty much going to get a clusterfuck.

On top of that, you don't even know who is sending you this message in the first place. You can't assume anything you see on here (or on the net at all, for that matter) is real. You don't know if it actually IS an adult messaging you. It could be some teenager with fake pictures. There are also trolls who make up fake profiles and do this with the express purpose of making you leery of everyone else on this site.

I do understand to a point, because I get a lot of emails, and some of them are like that. However, I don't understand why so many people on here get so offended by these emails. Now, if some guy came up in public and said that to my face, it's an entirely different matter. However, some guy sending me an email on CityHookups.com, well I have about as much reaction to that as I do to sales papers I get in the mail. Literally , that's how much reaction I have to them. They have no more meaning than that. I respond to "I'd love to fuck your pussy!" about the same way I do to "Save 50% off!!." I just wad it up and throw it in the trash. (If necessary, I'll block too.) It's just some random internet user send me a message, the same way it's just some random company sending me a sales paper (albeit one is more crudely worded than the other). I just think when you take these emails too seriously, you are giving these people way too much power over you. Just my two cents.


Hunter4Head 61M
6253 posts
12/13/2017 11:39 pm

LOL.....This guy sounds like a REAL DICK ! ! ! ! ! ! If I would've been you, I would've just deleted the LOSER BASTARD in about 2 seconds flat, and blocked his ass........
No REAL man speaks to a woman like that. That fucker has "issues", deep seeded ones......a real CLASS ACT


TicklePlease 56F  
13851 posts
12/14/2017 5:14 am

I always say Go get that hotel room, ya big stud, and shoot me an email with the room number as soon as you're there waiting for me!


photon46 76M
339 posts
12/14/2017 8:54 am

Half the world is below average and a lot of those guys find refuge in the internet. Though this guy sets a new standard for abusive.

Chuck


GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
12/14/2017 9:48 am

    Quoting gvillegrl:
    Let me preface this by saying I'm not condoning the email you received, or criticizing you. I just think you might be better off looking at this in a different way. You have to look at the larger context of this. The internet is the Wild West. You have millions/billions of different people with completely different ideas and personalities. You put all these different people together interacting (particularly in an anonymous environment), and you're pretty much going to get a clusterfuck.

    On top of that, you don't even know who is sending you this message in the first place. You can't assume anything you see on here (or on the net at all, for that matter) is real. You don't know if it actually IS an adult messaging you. It could be some teenager with fake pictures. There are also trolls who make up fake profiles and do this with the express purpose of making you leery of everyone else on this site.

    I do understand to a point, because I get a lot of emails, and some of them are like that. However, I don't understand why so many people on here get so offended by these emails. Now, if some guy came up in public and said that to my face, it's an entirely different matter. However, some guy sending me an email on CityHookups.com, well I have about as much reaction to that as I do to sales papers I get in the mail. Literally , that's how much reaction I have to them. They have no more meaning than that. I respond to "I'd love to fuck your pussy!" about the same way I do to "Save 50% off!!." I just wad it up and throw it in the trash. (If necessary, I'll block too.) It's just some random internet user send me a message, the same way it's just some random company sending me a sales paper (albeit one is more crudely worded than the other). I just think when you take these emails too seriously, you are giving these people way too much power over you. Just my two cents.
I understand what you're saying and yes I suppose it could be some young kid playing games, but irregardless of who he may be...it is not an email of the type I would enjoy getting and I'll put that out there and just let others know that this is not the way to get a women's attention - at least not in a good way.

Thanks for your input

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GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
12/14/2017 9:53 am

    Quoting Hunter4Head:
    LOL.....This guy sounds like a REAL DICK ! ! ! ! ! ! If I would've been you, I would've just deleted the LOSER BASTARD in about 2 seconds flat, and blocked his ass........
    No REAL man speaks to a woman like that. That fucker has "issues", deep seeded ones......a real CLASS ACT
Yeah I thought so too....lol

I did delete his email after posting it here and he's been blocked so I don't get some kind of follow up asking why I didn't get back to him.

I suppose it takes all kinds on here, but his approach is definitely lacking in common sense. He is not the norm on here thank goodness, although his kind do exist and show their stupidity occasionally.

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GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
12/14/2017 9:55 am

    Quoting TicklePlease:
    I always say Go get that hotel room, ya big stud, and shoot me an email with the room number as soon as you're there waiting for me!
LOL.....now I'm just wondering if any guy has actually done this? Hmmmmm

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GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
12/14/2017 9:58 am

    Quoting  :

Yes...I am very aware that not all men are like this moron. I get more decent emails than I do ones like this.

I'd hazard a guess if he sent one like this to me, he has sent very similar ones to other women. Once an idiot, always an idiot....

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GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
12/14/2017 10:03 am

    Quoting photon46:
    Half the world is below average and a lot of those guys find refuge in the internet. Though this guy sets a new standard for abusive.

    Chuck
Oh those odds aren't too good....lol

It's easy to be a keyboard fool, no real repercussions. He likes what he likes and I could accept that, it's not for me to judge his kinks...but you don't just send out an email like that to a woman as a first communication....that's for sure. Better to find out what the lady might be into first...

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GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
12/16/2017 3:02 pm

    Quoting  :

Yes, you are right....some do think that, and some have better sense.

I show some boob on my profile, but if they were to take the time and read my profile they would see that just because I do that, it does not mean I'm willing to hop into bed with them at a moment's notice....as most of us are not.

Some will whine if you shoot them down and some will get mean, (some will be decent) .

I decided to deal with neither this time.

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s2ndegree 65M
9800 posts
12/19/2017 12:08 pm

What's really to learn other than assholes like this
almost always ensure that anyone else that
approaches in a more civil and respectful
manner will never be believed anyway.
Leaving both sides a jaded mess
I'll stick with dating sites that don't have to emphasize
what would be a natural progression if connections
are made.

Using more than all the road!


GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
12/28/2017 8:35 am

    Quoting  :

Yeah this one was a bit over the top.....lol

I could do without this kind of email, and in all fairness I don't get many like this one often. Sometimes the "You wanna fuck" or "I'd love to lick you all day" kind of email. And some that are complimentary in nature and wish me luck finding what I want.

It's these guys that give A*F*F it's sometimes unsavory perception!

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GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
12/28/2017 8:42 am

    Quoting  :

I don't get many like this guy wrote, but do get some that occasionally walk a fine line.

I use to answer all emails, but since it can get crazy...I sometimes just don't answer anymore if they ask questions that are or can be answered in my profile if they take the time. For me, that's part of the "fun" of A*F*F....reading profiles and learning about people and their need s and wants etc.

I realize standard members can't read my profile, but my understanding is they can't email me either....which means it is gold members emailing me and they should read a profile first.....

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GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
12/28/2017 8:45 am

    Quoting  :

Yes....I do get annoyed because clearly they did not read my profile, or they would never send an email like that had they.

It's not flattering to receive an email like that at all...at least in my opinion. Maybe some women may enjoy it....I'm not one!

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GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
12/28/2017 8:57 am

    Quoting s2ndegree:
    What's really to learn other than assholes like this
    almost always ensure that anyone else that
    approaches in a more civil and respectful
    manner will never be believed anyway.
    Leaving both sides a jaded mess
    I'll stick with dating sites that don't have to emphasize
    what would be a natural progression if connections
    are made.
It is a shame that guys like this sometimes poisons the chances of other men that are decent, respectful and nice.

I try not to judge all by the actions (or words) of a few clueless men. But I think some women get somewhat jaded by their experiences on here.

I'm on a more "vanilla" site and you do get more polite emails that's for sure.....lol

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buckersby 54M
203 posts
12/29/2017 10:51 am

Manners maketh the man and Politeness costs nothing. Something to think about my fellow men!


Linc1912 47M
978 posts
1/7/2018 7:03 am

I’ve read his email and all the female comments.
What eludes me is if you even want contact/ relations with a black guy?
This place does NOT mince words about women’s feelings about
black men. The responses use to shock me:
the “no blaks allowed”
“no negros”
“nigger-free”
“ no stds wanted”

~Linc was here.~


GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
1/9/2018 12:35 pm

    Quoting buckersby:
    Manners maketh the man and Politeness costs nothing. Something to think about my fellow men!
You are correct! More men should think that way....

Thanks for visiting and commenting

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GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
1/9/2018 12:38 pm

    Quoting  :

Yes it seems more and more join daily and you are correct, the site cares not at all what goes on it seems. They just hope people will upgrade and throw the money at them.

I usually just delete these types of emails, but will sometimes make examples of them. He was blocked that's for sure!

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GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
1/9/2018 12:45 pm

    Quoting Linc1912:
    I’ve read his email and all the female comments.
    What eludes me is if you even want contact/ relations with a black guy?
    This place does NOT mince words about women’s feelings about
    black men. The responses use to shock me:
    the “no blaks allowed”
    “no negros”
    “nigger-free”
    “ no stds wanted”
I address the "issue" in my profile as to race. I am honest and it is just a personal preference for me.

I like to think I am a fairly polite person and would never dream of using slurs or wording like you've described....that would just be horrible!

I certainly don't want any std's, but that can cut all racial lines - not exclusive to any in particular! Sorry if you've received such comments....not cool at all!

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