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Some Of Us Better Get Busy I Guess....lol  

GreenEyedLady_60 64F
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8/23/2017 9:27 pm
Some Of Us Better Get Busy I Guess....lol
Here’s an article I came across that mentions that there are unpleasant things that happen to our health (both physical and mental/psychological) if we are not having sex.

Obviously you don’t have to be in a serious or committed “relationship” to be having sex. There are men and women men/men..women/women that are friends with benefits, no strings attached friends, and just plain old fuck buddies!

Those in a relationship or those who are couples….well I guess just keep busy doing what you’re hopefully doing!

Those of us who are single and have been celibate, for whatever reason...ie: haven’t found that someone yet that we want to get down & dirty with!

I guess we better get busy…..lol

Sooooooooooo what do you think? Have you noticed any of the things mentioned below....happening to you? Do you agree or disagree with the article?

12​ ​Bad​ ​Things​ ​That​ ​Happen​ ​to​ ​Your​ ​Health When​ ​You​ ​Stop​ ​Having Sex
by​ ​​August ​Mc Laughlin

If​ ​the​ ​only​ ​fun​ ​you’ve​ ​had​ ​naked​ ​lately​ ​consists​ ​of​ ​a​ ​bubble​ ​bath,​ ​you’re​ ​not alone.​ ​Going​ ​from​ ​sexually​ ​active​ ​to​ ​sexless​ ​is​ ​relatively​ ​common,​ ​especially in​ ​long-term​ ​relationships​ ​or​ ​obviously​ ​in​ ​one​ ​having​ ​no​ ​relationship.​ ​You​ ​may find​ ​yourself​ ​no​ ​longer​ ​having​ ​sex​ ​due​ ​to​ ​a​ ​breakup,​ ​changes​ ​in​ ​your​ ​health​ ​or life​ ​stress.​ ​While​ ​sex​ ​isn’t​ ​necessary​ ​for​ ​overall​ ​wellness,​ ​there​ ​is​ ​scientific proof​ ​that​ ​physical​ ​intimacy,​ ​arousal​ ​and​ ​orgasm​ ​can​ ​invite​ ​some​ ​pretty awesome​ ​benefits​ ​you​ ​may​ ​miss​ ​out​ ​on​ ​by​ ​going​ ​sex-free.​ ​Read​ ​on​ ​to​ ​learn about​ ​how​ ​not​ ​having​ ​sex​ ​can​ ​negatively​ ​impact​ ​your​ ​physical​ ​and​ ​emotional well-being​ ​—​ ​and​ ​then​ ​use​ ​this​ ​information​ ​as​ ​motivation​ ​to​ ​get​ ​back​ ​on​ ​the wagon.


1. ​FEWER​ ​ENDORPHINS

Arousal​ ​and​ ​orgasm​ ​can​ ​cause​ ​the​ ​release​ ​of​ ​feel-good​ ​chemicals (endorphins)​ ​in​ ​your​ ​body.​ ​These​ ​chemicals​ ​are​ ​known​ ​to​ ​relieve​ ​pain​ ​and boost​ ​mood.​ ​If​ ​you​ ​stop​ ​regularly​ ​having​ ​sex​ ​you​ ​may​ ​then​ ​miss​ ​those​ ​rushes —​ ​similar​ ​to​ ​putting​ ​an​ ​end​ ​to​ ​the​ ​workouts,​ ​that​ ​once​ ​gave​ ​you​ ​the​ ​proverbial “runner’s​ ​high,”​ ​says​ ​Sheila​ ​Loanzon,​ ​M.D.,​ ​a​ ​gynecologist​ ​in​ ​San​ ​Jose, California.

2.​​ ​​MORE​ ​STRESS

If​ ​you​ ​remember​ ​how​ ​relaxed​ ​you​ ​once​ ​felt​ ​after​ ​a​ ​romp​ ​between​ ​the​ ​sheets, you​ ​may​ ​not​ ​be​ ​surprised​ ​to​ ​learn​ ​that​ ​less​ ​sex​ ​makes​ ​way​ ​for​ ​more​ ​stress.​ ​In a​ ​study​ ​published​ ​in​ ​the​ ​Journal​ ​of​ ​Family​ ​Psychology​ ​in​ ​2010,​ ​female​ ​college students​ ​reported​ ​their​ ​levels​ ​of​ ​daily​ ​stress​ ​and​ ​sexual​ ​activity​ ​during​ ​several months​ ​before​ ​a​ ​major​ ​exam.​ ​Women​ ​who​ ​reported​ ​the​ ​most​ ​stress​ ​also reported​ ​having​ ​less​ ​sex.​ ​While​ ​there​ ​are​ ​other​ ​ways​ ​to​ ​manage​ ​stress,​ ​you may​ ​end​ ​up​ ​noticing​ ​that​ ​your​ ​stress​ ​levels​ ​go​ ​up​ ​as​ ​your​ ​sexual​ ​activity declines.​ ​On​ ​the​ ​flip​ ​side,​ ​high​ ​levels​ ​of​ ​stress​ ​can​ ​make​ ​sex​ ​less​ ​appealing.

3.​​ ​​LESS​ ​RELATIONSHIP​ ​SATISFACTION

Physical​ ​intimacy​ ​works​ ​like​ ​feel-good​ ​glue​ ​for​ ​many​ ​couples,​ ​drawing​ ​and keeping​ ​you​ ​more​ ​connected​ ​emotionally.​ ​Unless​ ​you’re​ ​asexual,​ ​having​ ​less sex​ ​with​ ​your​ ​partner​ ​may​ ​lead​ ​to​ ​a​ ​drop​ ​in​ ​satisfaction​ ​for​ ​you​ ​both.​ ​The Journal​ ​of​ ​Family​ ​Psychology​ ​study​ ​also​ ​showed​ ​that​ ​women​ ​who​ ​reported less​ ​sex​ ​reported​ ​less​ ​relationship​ ​gratification.​ ​This​ ​may​ ​be​ ​partly​ ​because orgasm​ ​causes​ ​the​ ​release​ ​of​ ​the​ ​brain​ ​chemical​ ​oxytocin,​ ​also​ ​known​ ​as​ ​“the bonding​ ​hormone.”​ ​Oxytocin​ ​produces​ ​a​ ​sense​ ​of​ ​trust​ ​and​ ​closeness​ ​and may​ ​even​ ​help​ ​you​ ​and​ ​your​ ​partner​ ​see​ ​each​ ​other​ ​in​ ​a​ ​more​ ​positive​ ​light

4​​. SELF-JUDGMENT​ ​AND​ ​LOWER​ ​SELF-ESTEEM

Shifting​ ​from​ ​sexually​ ​active​ ​to​ ​sexually​ ​sedentary​ ​may​ ​also​ ​damage​ ​your relationships​ ​in​ ​another​ ​way​ ​—​ ​including​ ​the​ ​relationship​ ​with​ ​yourself.​ ​“From a​ ​medical​ ​perspective,​ ​having​ ​less​ ​sex​ ​will​ ​not​ ​affect​ ​neurotransmitters​ ​or medical​ ​diseases,”​ ​said​ ​gynecologist,​ ​Sheila​ ​Loanzon,​ ​M.D.​ ​“However,​ ​it​ ​is​ ​the emotions​ ​and​ ​judgments​ ​that​ ​we​ ​superimpose​ ​on​ ​ourselves​ ​that​ ​can​ ​be detrimental.”​ ​Minimal​ ​sex​ ​or​ ​sex​ ​drive​ ​can​ ​lead​ ​to​ ​a​ ​smorgasbord​ ​of​ ​emotional challenges,​ ​such​ ​as​ ​self-judgment,​ ​embarrassment​ ​and​ ​anxiety.​ ​“These emotions​ ​begin​ ​to​ ​fester​ ​internally​ ​and​ ​can​ ​extend​ ​to​ ​our​ ​relationships​ ​and​ ​be palpable​ ​to​ ​partners,”​ ​she​ ​adds.

5. ERECTILE​ ​DYSFUNCTION

Seldom​ ​getting​ ​busy​ ​may​ ​be​ ​a​ ​recipe​ ​for​ ​fewer​ ​erections.​ ​A​ ​study​ ​published​ ​in the​ ​American​ ​Journal​ ​of​ ​Medicine​ ​in​ ​2008​ ​showed​ ​that​ ​men​ ​who​ ​reported having​ ​sexual​ ​intercourse​ ​once​ ​per​ ​week​ ​were​ ​half​ ​as​ ​likely​ ​to​ ​experience erectile​ ​dysfunction​ ​when​ ​compared​ ​with​ ​men​ ​who​ ​had​ ​less​ ​frequent​ ​sex.​ ​The researchers,​ ​who​ ​studied​ ​more​ ​than​ ​900​ ​male​ ​participants​ ​ages​ ​55​ ​to​ ​75, concluded​ ​that​ ​routine​ ​intercourse​ ​may​ ​protect​ ​against​ ​ED.​ ​While​ ​many​ ​other factors​ ​contribute​ ​to​ ​ED,​ ​says​ ​New​ ​York​ ​City​ ​sex​ ​therapist​ ​Stephen​ ​Snyder, M.D.,​ ​once​ ​it​ ​occurs​ ​it​ ​can​ ​lead​ ​to​ ​additional​ ​problems,​ ​such​ ​as​ ​relationship tenseness...​ ​and​ ​sex​ ​avoidance.​ ​“ED​ ​is​ ​probably​ ​the​ ​number-one​ ​reason​ ​men avoid​ ​partner​ ​sex.”

6. ​A​ ​LESS​ ​TONED​ ​VAGINA

Regular​ ​vaginal​ ​sexual​ ​activity,​ ​whether​ ​with​ ​a​ ​partner​ ​or​ ​solo,​ ​promotes vaginal​ ​health.​ ​This​ ​is​ ​especially​ ​important​ ​from​ ​midlife​ ​and​ ​beyond,​ ​according to​ ​the​ ​North​ ​American​ ​Menopause​ ​Society,​ ​because​ ​dryness​ ​and​ ​less elasticity​ ​are​ ​a​ ​common​ ​result​ ​of​ ​hormonal​ ​shifts.​ ​Sex​ ​play​ ​stimulates​ ​blood flow​ ​to​ ​your​ ​genitals,​ ​helping​ ​to​ ​keep​ ​your​ ​vaginal​ ​muscles​ ​toned​ ​and maintaining​ ​their​ ​current​ ​length​ ​and​ ​stretchiness.​ ​Similar​ ​to​ ​managing​ ​erectile dysfunction,​ ​this​ ​tends​ ​to​ ​make​ ​sex​ ​more​ ​appealing​ ​and​ ​enjoyable​ ​as​ ​well.

7​​. ​LESS​ ​LUBRICATION

When​ ​you​ ​are​ ​sexually​ ​active,​ ​whether​ ​female​ ​or​ ​male,​ ​you​ ​probably​ ​notice that​ ​wetness​ ​plays​ ​a​ ​major​ ​role​ ​in​ ​arousal.​ ​Sexual​ ​excitement​ ​stimulates glands​ ​that​ ​produce​ ​wetness​ ​in​ ​the​ ​vagina.​ ​If​ ​a​ ​woman​ ​no​ ​longer​ ​feels​ ​turned on​ ​regularly​ ​or​ ​at​ ​all,​ ​they​ ​may​ ​experience​ ​vaginal​ ​dryness​ ​—​ ​which​ ​can​ ​make any​ ​sex​ ​you​ ​have​ ​painful.​ ​While​ ​there​ ​are​ ​other​ ​causes​ ​of​ ​“down​ ​there”
dryness,​ ​such​ ​as​ ​hormonal​ ​imbalances​ ​associated​ ​with​ ​menopause,​ ​routine masturbation​ ​or​ ​couple​ ​play​ ​may​ ​make​ ​all​ ​the​ ​difference.

8. ​ ​​LOWER​ ​MOODS

It’s​ ​tough​ ​to​ ​say​ ​which​ ​comes​ ​first,​ ​low​ ​sexual​ ​activity​ ​or​ ​low​ ​moods,​ ​but research​ ​shows​ ​a​ ​significant​ ​link​ ​between​ ​the​ ​two,​ ​according​ ​to​ ​a​ ​report published​ ​in​ ​the​ ​Journal​ ​of​ ​Economic​ ​Behavior​ ​and​ ​Organization​ ​in​ ​May​ ​2015. If​ ​you’re​ ​feeling​ ​down​ ​or​ ​depressed,​ ​you​ ​may​ ​be​ ​less​ ​interested​ ​in​ ​sex.​ ​Given the​ ​feel-good​ ​perks​ ​of​ ​sex,​ ​however,​ ​there’s​ ​also​ ​a​ ​fair​ ​chance​ ​that​ ​going​ ​from a​ ​robust​ ​sex​ ​life​ ​to​ ​very​ ​little​ ​sex​ ​could​ ​contribute​ ​to​ ​blah​ ​moods.​ ​Engaging​ ​in foreplay​ ​and​ ​sex​ ​somewhat​ ​regularly​ ​may​ ​be​ ​just​ ​what​ ​the​ ​doctor​ ​ordered.

9. ​​FEWER​ ​HEART-HEALTH​ ​BENEFITS

This​ ​is​ ​another​ ​possible​ ​Catch-22.​ ​While​ ​sex​ ​may​ ​help​ ​minimize​ ​stress​ ​and benefit​ ​heart​ ​health,​ ​stress​ ​and​ ​poor​ ​cardiovascular​ ​health​ ​can​ ​interfere​ ​with arousal​ ​and​ ​sexual​ ​function.​ ​One​ ​study,​ ​published​ ​in​ ​the​ ​American​ ​Journal​ ​of Cardiology​ ​in​ ​2010,​ ​linked​ ​low​ ​sex​ ​frequency​ ​with​ ​an​ ​increased​ ​likelihood​ ​of cardiovascular​ ​disease.​ ​Studies​ ​like​ ​this​ ​one​ ​don’t​ ​necessarily​ ​prove​ ​that​ ​sex prevents​ ​heart​ ​disease,​ ​according​ ​to​ ​the​ ​Cleveland​ ​Clinic,​ ​but​ ​they​ ​do​ ​show that​ ​sex​ ​suits​ ​a​ ​heart-healthy​ ​lifestyle.

10. ​​LOWER​ ​IMMUNE​ ​FUNCTION

Touch,​ ​arousal​ ​and​ ​orgasm​ ​lower​ ​stress​ ​levels​ ​in​ ​the​ ​body​ ​through​ ​pleasure, providing​ ​a​ ​sense​ ​of​ ​comfort​ ​and​ ​release​ ​and​ ​setting​ ​those​ ​feel-good chemicals​ ​in​ ​motion.​ ​All​ ​of​ ​this​ ​is​ ​helpful​ ​for​ ​your​ ​immune​ ​system​ ​because​ ​a less​ ​stressed​ ​body​ ​can​ ​better​ ​fend​ ​off​ ​illnesses.​ ​No​ ​longer​ ​having​ ​sex​ ​may undo​ ​those​ ​benefits​ ​you​ ​were​ ​receiving,​ ​potentially​ ​making​ ​you​ ​more vulnerable​ ​to​ ​colds,​ ​the​ ​flu​ ​and​ ​other​ ​viruses.

11. LOWER​ ​LIBIDO

While​ ​it​ ​can​ ​have​ ​the​ ​opposite​ ​effect,​ ​having​ ​less​ ​sex​ ​may​ ​lead​ ​you​ ​to​ ​desire less​ ​sex​ ​over​ ​time.​ ​Many​ ​people​ ​and​ ​sex​ ​experts​ ​report​ ​that​ ​“use​ ​it​ ​or​ ​lose​ ​it” applies​ ​to​ ​your​ ​libido.​ ​From​ ​a​ ​physical​ ​standpoint,​ ​if​ ​having​ ​little​ ​to​ ​no​ ​sex​ ​has detrimental​ ​effects​ ​on​ ​your​ ​sexual​ ​health​ ​—​ ​causing​ ​vaginal​ ​dryness​ ​or erectile​ ​dysfunction,​ ​for​ ​example​ ​—​ ​you​ ​and​ ​your​ ​body​ ​may​ ​become​ ​less easily​ ​or​ ​frequently​ ​aroused.​ ​And​ ​the​ ​less​ ​habitual​ ​sex​ ​becomes,​ ​the​ ​more you​ ​may​ ​gradually​ ​grow​ ​accustomed​ ​to​ ​not​ ​having​ ​it​ ​or​ ​begin​ ​seeing​ ​yourself as​ ​less​ ​sexual.​ ​Think​ ​of​ ​it​ ​as​ ​a​ ​snowball​ ​effect.

12. ​​LOWER​ ​SELF-CONFIDENCE

When​ ​women​ ​are​ ​concerned​ ​about​ ​having​ ​too​ ​little​ ​sex,​ ​they​ ​often​ ​blame themselves​ ​for​ ​doing​ ​something​ ​wrong,​ ​says​ ​gynecologist​ ​Sheila​ ​Loanzon, M.D.​ ​“If​ ​compounded​ ​over​ ​periods​ ​of​ ​time​ ​this​ ​can​ ​impact​ ​self-confidence​ ​and desire​ ​for​ ​intercourse,”​ ​she​ ​says.​ ​In​ ​addition​ ​to​ ​addressing​ ​any​ ​medical​ ​or emotional​ ​cause​ ​of​ ​libido​ ​loss,​ ​prioritizing​ ​pleasure,​ ​getting​ ​to​ ​know​ ​your​ ​own body​ ​through​ ​masturbation​ ​and​ ​giving​ ​yourself​ ​permission​ ​to​ ​enjoy​ ​sex​ ​as​ ​you wish​ ​can​ ​help​ ​restore​ ​lost​ ​confidence.



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GreenEyedLady_60 64F
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8/23/2017 9:48 pm

 Sure do LOVE sex.........

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billydixy66 70M
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8/24/2017 2:37 am

 Gosh, I can give testament to everything in the article, other than the vagina comment, based on the infrequency in my sex life.


pocogato12 71F  
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8/24/2017 4:23 am

 I have my shopping list!!!I read the same articcle
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GreenEyedLady_60 64F
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8/24/2017 6:23 am
    Quoting  :
Informative and I suppose a little depressing....lol I debated posting it for that reason....lol

Ahhhhh...we're all entitled to an off day! You usually seem to be a calm and happy person!

I hear ya....I may have to as well....good luck!
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GreenEyedLady_60 64F
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8/24/2017 6:27 am
    Quoting billydixy66:
    Gosh, I can give testament to everything in the article, other than the vagina comment, based on the infrequency in my sex life.
Yes...I can as well to some of them, although I think the vagina is still okay....lol

Apparently self pleasuring can help a bit, but there still is nothing like having a real partner!!

Best of luck!
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GreenEyedLady_60 64F
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8/24/2017 6:29 am
    Quoting pocogato12:
    I have my shopping list!!!I read the same articcle
LOL....

It was informative and enlightening, but a bit depressing as well....lol
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GreenEyedLady_60 64F
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8/24/2017 8:31 am
    Quoting  :
I do agree...#4 and #12 are fairly similar. One speaks of self judgement and lower self esteem and the other lower self confidence.

It is an important aspect of the article for them to make (the pleasure being derived from sex) as far as the benefits of sex and why we should be having it! For me personally, the emotional component of sex is what makes the physical part that much more pleasurable.

Thanks for your comments!
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GreenEyedLady_60 64F
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8/24/2017 8:35 am
    Quoting  :
I agree...I have experienced a few myself. I think more the "emotional" or mental aspects. Self pleasuring can help some of the physical issues stated in the article...but it doesn't help with the other.

One needs to have a flesh and blood partner in my opinion to fully enjoy the pleasures of sex....lol
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GreenEyedLady_60 64F
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8/25/2017 6:32 am
    Quoting tedscott40:
    Interesting post. You need sex, but for you Tam, you'll feel bad without the connection. You need a real boyfriend. I hope you find a good one. Have a good weekend.
    Ted
Thanks....

You are correct and I make no secret of the fact that I need a connection with someone to want to have sex with them. I can't just meet someone and an hour later jump their bones, it's just not in the cards for me.

I appreciate your good wishes

You have a good weekend Ted
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let_me_see1 64M
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8/25/2017 2:22 pm

 It is interesting that in the items listed, it is both physical and mental betterment when one has sex. And both physical and mental issues when one does not have sex. We can all take care of our individual needs either alone or preferably with a partner to achieve the physical benefits. But if you have that connection, that person that makes the mind and body both complete, well, that is when it is the best orgasms and that is when the afterglow seems to last a very long time. I believe the article to be correct. Now, we all need to find a good connection and enjoy someone for all the right health reasons.
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GreenEyedLady_60 64F
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8/30/2017 8:27 am
    Quoting let_me_see1:
    It is interesting that in the items listed, it is both physical and mental betterment when one has sex. And both physical and mental issues when one does not have sex. We can all take care of our individual needs either alone or preferably with a partner to achieve the physical benefits. But if you have that connection, that person that makes the mind and body both complete, well, that is when it is the best orgasms and that is when the afterglow seems to last a very long time. I believe the article to be correct. Now, we all need to find a good connection and enjoy someone for all the right health reasons.
I think that the physical and mental should go hand in hand where sex is involved. I suspect for the experience to be it's best...that you need both. Sex is just a physical act, but when you bring feelings...emotions etc into that physical act, it becomes more than that..

One can have sex and enjoy the experience without the mental aspects....but to me it just seems more hollow. Sex for the sake of sex and physical release.
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GreenEyedLady_60 64F
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8/30/2017 8:38 am
    Quoting tedscott40:
    Actually, I think you would make a good girlfriend, but many of us here are not looking for that. My guess is that you're the loyal type and would put a good amount of effort into sex.
    Ted
Thank you Ted...and I do understand that many/some are just on CityHookups.com to meet someone to just have sex, with no ties or strings. That's perfectly fine as long as both participants are in agreement.

You are correct in your guess. I am a loyal person/lover and expect the same in return. If my "emotions" are involved....along with my body, then YES...I do put the effort into the sex...100%! I love to please and be pleased!
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Story435 76M
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8/31/2017 5:32 am

 Hello I am Butch.
This is a very nice post I guess I better get busy and I will feel better lol!
Butch


GreenEyedLady_60 64F
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8/31/2017 7:27 am

 Hello Butch

Thank you for the comment.... I wish you luck in finding someone to get busy with!
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chaso5 65M
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9/3/2017 4:07 pm

 Yes I do always try to keep busy! & I do like a well toned vagina!


GreenEyedLady_60 64F
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9/4/2017 8:29 pm
    Quoting chaso5:
    Yes I do always try to keep busy! & I do like a well toned vagina!
LOL....well that's good!! I like a well toned vagina too....(mine)....haha
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chaso5 65M
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9/5/2017 12:26 am
    Quoting GreenEyedLady_60:
    LOL....well that's good!! I like a well toned vagina too....(mine)....haha
Good to know, although hardly surprising that you would keep yours in top shape!


GreenEyedLady_60 64F
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9/11/2017 7:46 am

 I try......lol
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buxctyjohn 66M  
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9/24/2017 5:57 pm

 So, no sex in 11 years....I guess I have problems....lol


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