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Friendship to save the Sex
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Friendship to save the Sex We have all heard that sex ruins a friendship. I recall a funny episode of Seinfeld where Jerry and a female on the show decided that they were going to have sex, despite their friendship. They came up with a logical twist about how they were using sex to save the friendship. They both agreed they did not want to, but they would make that great sacrifice to save their friendship, which was truly valuable to them. Truth is certainly stranger than fiction. I am starting to understand that true intimacy is a prerequisite for the best, most intense, healthy sex two or more people can have. That type of connection with another is only possible with the establishment of a friendship. I think we all know who our friends are intuitively, but we may intellectually consider them a pain in the ass. A true friend is a person who will sacrifice a great deal so that our lives are better. They are not all placed with such a burden, but many of us have had an experience where we learn who our real friends are... when everyone who was there during the good times abandons us, when those who said what made us feel good about ourselves have deserted us, and all that remains are those who would calmly and quietly tell us things that hurt more than anything else; it was not an insult nor a epithet, but the statements could make us feel like a young being punished for something that we then, for the first time, realized was not right. Of course we often resorted to anger or humor to minimize this feeling, and we would argue with this person; going round and round in logical circles as if we were trying to establish who had the most endurance. Often we would "win." It was not that we had established that we were right and they were wrong, but they were the first to be an example of humility and let go... we had appeared in our own minds to have won the race... because we let the drag us farther down the track... and what is often not realized is that their understanding that we would hold on to the death if necessary was their motivation to let go early and suffer in some way; be it criticism or rejection, but they cared... They cared enough for themselves as well as for us. What I have learned from these examples is how important it is for my happiness to be sure that I am minimizing the amount of pain and suffering I cause others and to help lift their emotional burdens. It is time for me to do what was so freely done for me by others. I can do that by looking at every person as a valuable being. Get to know their insides, their foundations, their supports. If this occurs, myself and many others will build relationships where there are wonderful sexual experiences, and none of the heart wrenching emotional abuse that so many apparently happy couples and families ultimately suffer. Sex can never ruin a friendship, though it can destroy an associate or an acquaintance. Friendship, love... these things allow for intimacy,.. and that is the key to amazing sex!  ...take a look at my profile! “The most important things are the hardest to say." ― Stephen King |
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