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Blogs > 49AK > Out of the Ordinary

Ice or Water  

49AK 62M
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2/24/2009 5:49 pm

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7/16/2011 10:29 pm
Ice or Water

I have had the opportunity lately to discuss the meaning of submission with a couple of submissive women. This is a topic that I write about occasionally in the blog... and if you're inclined, you can search my blog for the usual keywords to see some of the things I've written.

Anyway, it occurred to me that a good metaphor for the whole domination and submission thing is that domination is a bit like a glass - it defines a space, and if you'll forgive the pun, the space inside is "sub space". What goes in this space is all of the physical and emotional things that come with submission. The dominant is responsible for defining what that space is.

What I have found is that for some women, they have a set of interests that are well-suited for staying entirely within the space that is defined by domination. These interests can take a number of forms, but what you will often find is that while the interests fit within the glass, the interests are more like ice cubes than water. In other words, you can fill the glass with ice, but there are still spaces in the glass that remain unfilled. In almost every case, these unfilled areas are not physical things, but rather, intellectual and emotional places that the submissive is unable or unwilling to go. Some of those places are those dark areas that reside on the other side of limits... things that the patient dominant would coax his submissive to experience. But just as often, those empty places are the difference between being a bottom and being a submissive.

If you allow the ice to exist in the glass long enough, it will often melt and occupy all of the previously unfilled spaces. But even so, after the ice has melted, the glass is often less than full. On the other hand, there are some for whom no amount of sitting will allow the ice to melt.

My experience has been that it is these emotional and intellectual areas where submissive women struggle the most. You'd think it would be the physical things - and one can imagine all sorts of physical places that a dominant might take a submissive. But these physical things - especially the ones that are overtly sexual - seem to come very easy to most submissive women. Getting the head to follow... now that is the chore.

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2/25/2009 6:50 am

 I prefer my scotch and bourbon on the rocks.


49AK replies on 2/26/2009 11:25 am:
Scotch and bourbon would fill those gaps!

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