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Blogs > 49AK > Out of the Ordinary

Look, a Flying Pig!  

49AK 62M
646 posts
2/2/2009 12:10 pm

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2/3/2009 10:51 am
Look, a Flying Pig!

I have never been asked out on a date...

That statement probably isn't exactly true. But it is very close.

Certainly, I've never been asked out first, as in, for a first date. Or a second.

Once I am in a relationship for a while, perhaps I've been asked to go to dinner or something. I once was given tickets to an NRBQ concert by my fiance'. And I am going to a concert tonight that my partner wanted to see. I guess technically, those are dates where I was asked to go.

But I think those are substantively different. After you've gone out a few times, the risk of rejection goes away. Sure, you might not get the answer you want when you ask, but it is more often about whether one can get a sitter, or who is visiting from out of town, or something else. It is pretty clear on date number four that you enjoy each other's company. You know what to expect, and a 'no' is not a referendum on you. It is a referendum on that particular date.

Which brings me to my question: Anyone that knows me is aware that I have moments of cluelessness. Is it possible that I was being asked out and I didn't notice?

I was once sitting in a mostly empty bar, when a gal I knew sat down beside me and started hinting that the wanted a beer and proceeded to show me her new bathing suit that she just bought - which she happened to be wearing under her blouse. The bartender - a good friend of mine - was not around... and rather than going behind the bar and getting her a beer (would have been OK), I sat there like a dope.

That was twenty-five years ago. I wouldn't miss that one today. But I wonder... what am I missing?

I would be curious to know from the women, if you're interested in a guy, do you ask him out? Do you make it clear to him that you want him to ask you out? How do you get your point across? Would I miss it?

And from the men, are women asking you out, or do you have to do most of the heavy lifting? Have you slept through some overtures by women?

rm_62misha62 38F
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2/2/2009 12:51 pm

 hi there nice blog


wildnwanton 61F
19428 posts
2/3/2009 8:53 am

 Being considered normal is over-rated at best. And I am older now, and that makes me blunt. I just ask, if I am turned down, I ask someone else.
"Shall I tell you the secret of the true scholar? It is this: every man I meet is my master in some point, and in that I learn of him."
~Ralph Waldo Emerson


49AK replies on 2/3/2009 10:18 am:
That's interesting. I am not too surprised... I think it is interesting how many smart and confident women there are out there... and a lot of them seem to be reading my blog.

Thanks for the comments!

PolyWife26 57F

2/3/2009 9:16 am

 Yes, I have asked guys out...but I'm sure that doesn't surprise you any.
Confidence is the sexiest thing a woman can have.



49AK replies on 2/3/2009 10:19 am:
Not terribly... of course, they're asking you out, too.

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