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A question for the ladies...
A question for the ladies... OK... So, I was messaged by someone a little while back. I sent her a polite message asking her to contact me back, and she did. She thanked me for messaging her, and then we did a bit of small talk to get to know each other better. Afterwards, I asked her if she was interested in getting together last weekend. I said that we could meet up that evening, and she could pick the place and the time and I'd be willing to be there. Then...she didn't reply back. She was still on the site for an hour, but she never replied back at all. A day goes by, and I asked her if she was still interested in getting together or not. Still no reply. 3 more days go by and I asked her if everything was ok, or did she change her mind and decided not to meet up. No reply at all. Now I know it apparent she's got no intention of meeting. I've stopped messaging her, and moved on. My question is this for the ladies...if you are serious about meeting up with someone, and they ask you directly to meet, and they suggest meeting at a neutral place to make things easier for you, would you go or not? How would you describe a good meet? Would you spend some time talking to that person? How much time would be involved before meeting a person? A couple of hours of talk? A day? A couple of days? A week? Longer? For example, you get a polite message. You respond back. He responds back, asks you some questions to get to know you better, you reply back and ask him some questions and he replies back and answers every question. He then asks, "Hey, I think we'd get along well. Would you like to meet up tonight to hang out and meet in person? If you like, you can pick the place and time, and I'll be there, so to make you feel more comfortable. Sound fair?" Would you go? Or would you ask to talk to him longer? The reason I'm asking this is to better understand why some women go dark after I ask them politely if they would like to meet up and talk. I guess I'd like more info to better understand what's going on inside a woman's mind. Thanks in advance! |
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I have never done same-day meets and never will. I have met several men from here and most were positive experiences on the first but many of the meetings were one-and-done as there was either no chemistry or the conversation in person was totally different from the conversation on here. I have only done same week once and that was a mistake. He had to wear his beer!! Polite refusal or decline ( yes, I know, wearing beer is not polite) is what should occur but not everyone understands what manners are. Rudeness is never warranted (Virtual Symposium Group) use Virtual Symposium Group
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I don't care to do same-day meets because I may have other things going on but I don't necessarily need a week to decide to meet someone for coffee. As long as no red flags or an excess of yellow flags pops up, I prefer to meet before much time passes so we can see if there's chemistry or not.
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6/24/2019 2:44 pm |
J I have a simple rule. Expect 99 no for every yes Spend as little time as possible on the 99
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This is a great question and it would take a little while for me to actually meet them I want to make sure they are real. I have met several members here from the site and they have all been pretty good meetings for the most part. I think everyone should respond to questions asked them no matter what the questions. If someone doesn't want to meet they should say no and explain why. But that's just me I have always said that honesty is the best policy..
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I am not sure why she ghosted you but always best to move on. I have met within a week but that was a while ago. It was a lesson learned. Now its a few weeks before I meet. I generally prefer to make sure we are on the same page and get an understanding of the man first. I haven't had an issue with that, I have met some great men. Sometimes its been longer then a few weeks, circumstances with work family and distance etc. but I have never been disappointed in waiting, I have been in rushing to meet and not properly gauging where someone is coming from. Having said that the key is that we need to keep chatting to figure that out, not ghost someone. If someone doesnt have the patience to wait then we are not on the same page, I have a family and a career... they come first.
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6/24/2019 2:13 pm |
Big boys can handle a no with elan. Going dark is an indication of serious weirdness afoot
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Firstly … after exchanging several messages, not replying means that she is rude. Or in a coma. As a woman that does meet - my problem would be the 'this evening' part. Any same day suggestion for a first meet seems overly eager and shows a disregard for the other person's schedule. Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!
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I'm with Bitchkitty here, I like to chat for a while... maybe a week, maybe longer, til I feel comfortable. I have met, and if I say I'm going to meet I will, I wouldn't just ignore someone I've been speaking to and "getting on well" with, if I changed my mind, I would say so, even if I had to tell a little white lie! It;s basic manners isn't it really Move on,, not everyone on here is a jerk off!
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6/24/2019 11:59 am |
some girls just can't say no
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6/24/2019 11:47 am |
Hmmm, polite message is the key word here, good blog and questions are well put..I actually personally would chat on here for awhile maybe a week before meeting..I know alot of guys are into right away meeting but most guys have to be aware of the fact that alot of women get hit on every day and well bluntly for that hook up, not all women want hook ups , so being serious about meeting and about meeting right away is every womans right to be cautious as well..Someone who is seriously wanting to meet and its agreed between two people its not that big of a deal to wait till she is comfortable in that meeting...women who " go dark" have things to hide and its sad for the guy who is serious ...sadly humans can do pretty much what they want , after all words on text or message are just words....
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Definitely like to hear ladies thoughts on this. And guys, if want to comment on the ladies comments, post it here too! I think this would be a decent discussion.
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