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Changes I have heard it said once that our lives take on dramatic changes every 7 years. That every 7 years our luck, our lives and sometimes even our loves will change as summer turns into autumn and winter into spring. But at least for me, it seems as though these transitions are happening much more often than I would like. But I know if I do not accept change it can be said it is diversity that I lack. Lately it is the transitions in my life that have been helping me keep on track. But what happens if these changes are not for the better? In 2007 I went through a major change in my life. It helped me learn that all the issues that I had conceived as problems within my life meant nothing in the bigger scheme of things. This change taught me that my little world pailed in comparison to the problems and changes that others were living with and forced to live with for the rest of their days. It helped me learn that change is not an option but a necessity for me, and even though it has caused pain, it liberated my soul. I am frightened that once again all I know and all I am familiar with will soon come to an end in many ways. I know with all that has happened in the last week, it was meant to teach me....something that right now I do not understand. I have learned that friendship is a very fragile thing when dropped from the palm of your hand. I have learned that the saying "forgive and forget" is much more simple when you read it and you have nothing at stake. And I have also learned that the hand of man can damage me more than what is visible to the naked eye. Now it is time for me to hold my breath, step outside myself and let the changes begin. I hope with each new step I will feel a new strength that I have never felt before. I have to believe that by stepping outside my comfort zone I will close and lock that door. .....but until then I am scared.  |
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I think everyone is scared of the same things and it is not much different for all of us. The key is to have friends who understand what you are feeling and willing to go through it with you. By your side, even when they are not there. Find that, and the rest of it will fall into place eventually. Good luck. I know it won't be easy. Personally, I am Change-Challenged. I hate it. And seem to struggle with it more than I should. I feel for you in this time.
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2/8/2009 8:44 pm |
i'm not sure i understand what it is you're trying to say... but i do understand that you'll be ok and time really does heal.  change means we're not dead. ...That which does not kill me merely pisses me off!... 
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you can't be frightened of change-your circumstances and the frightful events of the past week simply mean that you have to strike out in new directions-difficult to do, but necessary- you need to find a way of life that gives you pleasure, is meaningful and fulfilling. All your writing suggests that you're strong enough to do it Bella
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2/8/2009 9:07 pm |
Change from something we have been comfortable at can be very scary....but remember that fear can be just a loud noise with no substance to it and even if it is not in our comfort zone...opening our world can sometimes bring in wonderful new blessings....a bigger plan that we are not aware of....so hang tight...YOU are smart and courageous...two wonderful qualities required to make changes. TASTE LIFE IN ALL IT'S FLAVOUR
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2/8/2009 9:38 pm |
I know I was one of the ones suggesting 'forgive and forget' I didn't really mean it as the easy solution. It is hard to avoid clichés and suedo-psychology. I was trying to find a solution because that is me. I don't like people I know in pain. Or in this case met on blogs. Change is something I'm hoping for this year. Sorry to hear yours is troubling and painful. Hugs and all the clichés you can bear. I hope we all survive the year...just to piss someone off!  
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2/8/2009 11:24 pm |
Bella Change is the only constant thing in this universe believe me it can scare you but just embrace what comes your way, I did and the changes that came my way led me to the middle of the U.S.A where I met a wonderful woman who loves and inspires me to no end, she can also drive me nuts but I take the good with the bad and fortunately there is no ugly between us. You just keep being you change may not be comfortable but it is always workable so work it girlfriend   roaming the cyber streets of blogland  
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2/9/2009 12:25 am |
Don't be scared. Forget about what's the worst that can happen?An think of what's the best that can happen, it just might go that way.
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2/9/2009 7:08 am |
One breath at a time...   
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2/9/2009 7:23 am |
When change is in our lives it is telling us something, we need to listen to it. Sometimes we just ignor it other times we just don't have a choice because it won't let us. I feel change is always pushing us to do better and need to be cognative of this. What I have learned is to listen to it. There have been times when it was so hard that it feels like something is dying, which probably is and then there is new life at the end. The change is pulling us to the light and making us do better for ourself and others and most likely showing us that what was going on was not healthy. You are so right when you said, This change taught me that my little world pailed in comparison to the problems and changes that others were living with and forced to live with for the rest of their days. It helped me learn that change is not an option but a necessity for me, and even though it has caused pain, it liberated my soul. sbagliando s'impara I hope this helps. a Dio piacendo
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2/9/2009 8:57 am |
Hi Bella, Aside from your obvious physial beauty, you strike me as as an open and honest person who has the strength to says whats on her mind and is also not afraid to show your vulnerable side by asking other for their thoughts involving your personal issues. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable also takes strength. Something I "try" to live by is I look after the things I can control in my life and I don't sweat the external thing that I have no control over. Sometimes easier said than done, but with years of practice it gets easier. Keep your posts comming. I find them very insightful and articulant, plus seeing your pictures always brightens my day. A Fan  Micky
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Life is always susceptible to changes and if you suffer from fear of change, you are soon to lose the taste of life. An everyday change in our life is essential, for it opens new opportunities and creates room for adjustments. When you experience a change in life you should ask yourself that what it is that makes you afraid and nervous. Your job is to identify the fear and even write it down if necessary. When you write you can deal with things more confidently. When you face fear of change the apprehension seems to evade and once it is gone you can indeed face changes in life as they come to you.   []   Seduce my mind and my body
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DEEP..... Molte volte mi piace ripetere una cosa letta molto tempo fa: E personalmente aggiungo: "Beato l'uomo che trova rifugio in stesso essendo aperto al mondo" Baci....complimenti per il post molto vero e riflessivo... P.S. bellissima foto e bel culo..te lo posso dire vero? N.B. BEL CULO! ooooooooooooooooooooooo la!
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I think everyone is scared of the same things and it is not much different for all of us. The key is to have friends who understand what you are feeling and willing to go through it with you. By your side, even when they are not there. Find that, and the rest of it will fall into place eventually. Good luck. I know it won't be easy. Personally, I am Change-Challenged. I hate it. And seem to struggle with it more than I should. I feel for you in this time.
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You must be very strong. I don't know if I could go through all that but I do know it makes us stronger. And those rocks, you must be strong!
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T... I am going to Amazon tonight for the book. I guess the Slash autobiography just has to wait.
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I lov your advice and I am taking my time....if its worth it to her she will be there after this whole incident is said and done.
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When change is in our lives it is telling us something, we need to listen to it. Sometimes we just ignor it other times we just don't have a choice because it won't let us. I feel change is always pushing us to do better and need to be cognative of this. What I have learned is to listen to it. There have been times when it was so hard that it feels like something is dying, which probably is and then there is new life at the end. The change is pulling us to the light and making us do better for ourself and others and most likely showing us that what was going on was not healthy. You are so right when you said, This change taught me that my little world pailed in comparison to the problems and changes that others were living with and forced to live with for the rest of their days. It helped me learn that change is not an option but a necessity for me, and even though it has caused pain, it liberated my soul. sbagliando s'impara I hope this helps. a Dio piacendo
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Marino, thanks for the great advice, it always makes sense to me. I think you are right...a Vaffanculo blog once a month at the lea Funny thing is I speak like you and I am not even Neopolitan.
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Life is always susceptible to changes and if you suffer from fear of change, you are soon to lose the taste of life. An everyday change in our life is essential, for it opens new opportunities and creates room for adjustments. When you experience a change in life you should ask yourself that what it is that makes you afraid and nervous. Your job is to identify the fear and even write it down if necessary. When you write you can deal with things more confidently. When you face fear of change the apprehension seems to evade and once it is gone you can indeed face changes in life as they come to you.
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DEEP..... Molte volte mi piace ripetere una cosa letta molto tempo fa: E personalmente aggiungo: "Beato l'uomo che trova rifugio in stesso essendo aperto al mondo" Baci....complimenti per il post molto vero e riflessivo... P.S. bellissima foto e bel culo..te lo posso dire vero? N.B. BEL CULO! ooooooooooooooooooooooo la! Per il mio culo...grazie veramente, puoi dire quello che vuoi, siamo amici adesso. baci
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