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What Hurts Most
2/1/2009 9:09 am |
Hey Bella, hope you are feeling somewhat healed. I agree with the others that it is important to call the police. Bullies need to have limits clearly set. Where is the highest good in this situation? That you feel the support of your many friends and supporters? That you feel strong and proud after proving you are able to defend yourself agains't attacks? That your attacker is confronted by his friends, family and the community telling him what he did was not acceptable? That your attacker grows in consciousness and accepts responsibility for his thoughts and actions? That men in the CityHookups.com and general community get to reflect on and accept that no means no... no matter when the no happens? Peace and blessings
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2/1/2009 1:54 pm |
Bella, I am terribly sorry to hear that there are still such assholes in the world...worse that they end up being trusted vicariously...I agree that you should document and press charges...attempted sexual assualt, assault... This man seems to think it is okay to hit a woman for saying no, and somehow needs to learn that it is NOT okay. If you decide to pursue it, and need a hand, let us know...we have the professional expertise to help!  Last, I agree that you should not feel shamed over it, you lashed out to prevent someone from abusing you, and the marks you now wear are badges of bravery and honour!! Good luck, hun, hugs and tons of respect from us both! Mr and MrsYOW Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance.
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2/1/2009 3:47 pm |
definitely call the police. it sux, i know but, there you have it.
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2/1/2009 4:12 pm |
Well atleast you stood up for yourself. I have been 2 times and I would rather be dead then deal with that again. So I would fight till the life was out of me. I am proud of you for standing up to him and I would press charges. Good luck honey.... Vida Hope everyon'e life is going great. Vida
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2/1/2009 6:20 pm |
If you won't go to the police, I think some good old fashioned eye for an eye is in order. Send me his info. I would enjoy taking care of him for you. But I also want to listen to you and hold you until you feel better; no matter how long that takes. I am so sorry. If there's anything I can do to help (and I mean anything) please let me know. Take care my dear, P
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omg Bella...let me at that fucker...i will rip him a new asshole... my dear bella....oh my god...it saddnes me to now end to hear this has happened to you!!!! the bastard needs to be charged with assult...you my dear where defending yourself... my heart cries right now...for this is one nasty man and no man should do this to any woman!!!! The word NO means NO... fuck let me at him....i wish i was closer...i feel helpless...oh my god!!!! Bella....warm hugs...i love you girl!!!!
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Heh I just found you and your blog! I don't want nasty things happening to you. The assholes are over populated sorry you found one. Should be like a real man, when turned down cry in your beer and masterbate to porn. Ice those bruises, have some comfort food/time, and carry a mace. http://CityHookups.com.com=136&step=2 Hugs and stay safe
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T....thanks so much for the email. I will respond to both of them if not tonight, tomorrow for sure. Advice taken.
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Jess, it never dawned on me to do self defence classes until I read your comment. The gym I go to has these classes I believe. This is something I will be looking into this week.
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Cozy...now that scares me, you always think it will happen via a stranger. Good to keep in mind and I will...thank you.
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Thank you for visiting my blog and yes, you can write me any time.
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Huny, thank you for the support..just reading your post makes me feel better.
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I usually look forward to reading your blog because you seem real and honest about yourself. This is something I wouldn't expect and just a simple comment to say I'm sorry that you had to go through something like that... I don't care who you are or how much you flirt, there is no excuse for that loser's behaviour. I have no doubt that you are strong enough to handle it but although I don't know you if you did need a way to vent I'll be an ear..
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What a fucking asshole. If I could I'd teach him a REAL lesson in what it feels like to be bullied. This blog gets me so pissed I can hardly write about it. I knew a guy who made the mistake of actually bragging about hitting women. After telling him to shut his fucking mouth and get away from me, I absolutely made sure that anytime, anyplace I saw him speaking with ANY woman, I told them what he bragged about. This worked twofold, 1. He lost many potential "dates" and just faded from social circles, wondering why women treat him like a plague. and 2. I met some very cool women, one I ended dating for years. Not being flippant at all, Get the word out, tell anyone connected with this asshole. You probably should have called the cops. Lucky for him you don't own any firearms. Hope you feel better. xxx
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For all the years I have known you, you have always been a sweet heart, and always made it crystal clear what you wanted and needed. Do the right thing and go to the police. You know I am always here for you, if you need any help please let me know.
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Oh Bella, I'm sorry this happened to you. I met someone a while back and when I said no, he left me with bruises on my wrists and arms, and on my neck. I thankfully got away from him, and wasn't physically assaulted as you were. I didn't tell anyone because I was ashamed. I was ashamed that I would have to answer questions that I didn't want to. I was ashamed that I let myself get involved in a situation like that. But...you shouldn't be ashamed of anything. I now realize that I should have spoken out.
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If you won't go to the police, I think some good old fashioned eye for an eye is in order. Send me his info. I would enjoy taking care of him for you. But I also want to listen to you and hold you until you feel better; no matter how long that takes. I am so sorry. If there's anything I can do to help (and I mean anything) please let me know. Take care my dear, P
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2/1/2009 7:07 pm |
What a complete asshole. I think your friends boyfriend needs to reconsider who he hangs out with. In any town I know of he would had his ass hauled away and put in jail. I only hope some day the dude finds himself messing with the wrong person and land his ass in hell.
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2/1/2009 8:59 pm |
I couldnt believe that a total stranger would just haul off and knock the snot out of a woman who politely told him no and to back off. I know how it feels to be beaten for no apparent reason...I had an ex boyfriend who I had dated for 4 years off and on who beat me nearly every time I'd see him. He had "issues" and he'd take them out on me because I was the closest thing in his way so I'd take the flack for it. I kept going back even after vowing I'd never have anything to do with him ever again because I thought I was "In LOVE". I know this has nothing to do with your situation, Bella, but I can however relate to how you feel about having to walk around with bruised eyes, busted lips and bruised limbs in front of family and friends and school mates. No man, nor any woman has the legal right to hit anyone of the opposite sex, unless its for self defense...even then its not right but sometimes it is second nature to try and defend one's self. I guess what I'm trying to say is, even though its hard to get over an attack such as that, you have to move on with your life as much as possible, otherwise it could consume you and cause alot of pain and heartache in the near future. Men like the one who done this to you is a scumbag and needs to be persecuited for his unsightly actions. I hope you get well soon! E&G
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2/1/2009 9:21 pm |
I admire you for your strength in fighting him off and blogging about it. I hope you take legal action--his actions were criminal. so sorry for what you went through. Honeyblonde L. 
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2/1/2009 9:22 pm |
I'm sure you'll find a better man for you that will treat you perfect! THe way you want to be treated! Men that can't accept rejection are the very violent ones (some women too) and are usually obsessive and clingy. anyways, there are many peopl out there male and female that have gone through the same thing as you...peace and love!
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2/2/2009 2:17 am |
I am so sorry you went thru this....hopefully the mother fucker's balls hurt more than your face. You are NOT a victim....you stopped him from you....    
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2/2/2009 2:43 am |
hopes everythings fine
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2/2/2009 5:22 am |
I'm with everyone who said you need to press charges. It's not too late. (hugs) (DM sent me) I Am FFE, and I continue to approve these messages [post 1930488]
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I am so sorry this happened to you. He needs to be reported. Don't feel badly about what you did; it needed to be done. May you heal, even if it takes a while. hang in there! "Don't cry because it's over; smile because it happened." 
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